Hee, my husband and I are a gamer couple. He's a prot pally and I'm a resto druid in our main specs and you are right, we are quite the team. We are both good at our job, too. We both also have alts we enjoy playing.

The partnership is great... but yes, stress during a raid does bleed off when he's sitting right next to me, but we cope. :)

Hahahah ;D

I had this guildie once who used to buy flowers for all the women in the raid. I kept most of the flowers he gave me in the bank until I ran out of room.

This post makes me want to write a playful response about the Gamer Not-Couple. I wonder if I can find a couple of hours this week to draft something up. Hmmm

I've always found it interesting that even if you are gamers AND you both play the same game, that doesn't necesarily mean that you are doing it together.

I love hunting achievements & do silly things in the game that Fulguralis has no interest in. There are many nights that I'll be on an alt & never ever see Ful.

That's our Alone time ;)

My boyfriend and I are another gaming couple (Tanking DK (his) and Holy Priest (mine) are our mains). I find it interesting how many gaming couples we've run into. On our old realm, it was kind of a unique situation, but once we moved out of Terenas, it was like the couples came out of the woodworks.

I genuinely love playing with him, but sometimes I too have moments when I want to strangle him....over a game. "Why the hell are you doing that instance without me when you know I needed to go there?!"

On the flip side, I love having someone to vent to when people are acting stupidly but not stupidly enough to be yelled at over vent (he usually isn't the dumb bunny on our team, and when he is, I'm less pissed off). Sometimes OUR biggest problem is talking to each other while working together and getting other people killed because we weren't paying enough attention...

I hate to break up all the love but I've been forced to diplomatically deal with too many gamer couples that just -argh- you wish you could treat as 2 goddamn individuals sometimes.

I've played with couples when only 1 player wants to be there, and the other is being dragged along. NOT FUN

I've played with couples where one player is very very skilled and the other is just not. Talk about a difficult situation.

I've played with couples when 1 person takes offense at something and then 3 weeks, 1 month later they blow up and explode all over your organised raid because when one person is slighted, the other can't let it go either.

ATM we're having major guild drama and it's because an officer's girlfriend feels they were mistreated by another officer. Now the officer team can't seem to communicate and both sides believe they are due an apology. And it's very much a 2 vs 1 situation (how is that fair?)

So yeah, a pair can be a powerful thing, but be aware of that power and don't abuse it please!

My husband and I are a gamer couple too :) In fact, we're co-raid leaders for our guild's 25 mans. He's a prot pally and I'm a frost tank DK. For 25 man content, there's nothing quite like 2 tanks moving as one and working instinctively together.

same, my bf and i are gamer couple, actually me and him knew each other since ragnarok online days. =)

@Cassandri

Yea, I've actually had a very similar piece of drama just go down in our guild (luckily it wasn't pertaining to officers, unluckily it led to the wife leading her husband out of the guild and his friends went with them).

As a RL, it really can be stressful to tell a good player's S.O that they're not so good. There's (a different) couple on our team whose hubby is an awesome DPS while his wife eats fires. So, we don't ever let her heal, but we do take her along to dps when we can.

Brade and I are also a gaming couple.

One thing that I *know* I'm a bit unfair on is that I hold him to a much higher standard of performance than others. And I hold others to a fairly high standard of performance. I guess I just expect him to be better...and not ever wear the dunce cap!

HOW COULD YOU SERIOUSLY PULL AGRO AGAIN FFS WATCH YOUR F'N OMEN ALREADY.

Pretty sure that is a cliff's note version of what could be heard in our game room last night as we raided and Brade did stupid things ;-)

My wife and I are a gaming couple. She is also taking a shot at blogging about it called Real Life First (reallifefirst.blogspot.com).

Now that we have a son that is sleeping through the night, things are a lot easier.

As a former large guild leader, I have had my fair share of contact with gamer couples in WoW. I would say for the most part they were an extremely positive force for our guild provided that they were both skilled, committed players.

We did run into problems where it became impossible to bench one of them without the other, or one of them would necessarily side with the other on disputes, even if the position was indefensible. For example, one husband was bored of his main and wanted to start bringing his undergeared alt to progression raids, and even though this was blatantly against guild policy, we ended up having to let him, lest we lose our top dpser, his wife.

For the most part, though, real-life cohesion is a strong asset in keeping a large guild together. I'm happy to say that I'm currently in a gaming couple now, and it does make the game a lot more fun ;)

My husband and I run together all the time. He has a ret pally, a DK tank and a mage- so the run opps are somewhat endless for me. We are a package deal, but I'd like to think we are good players. Also, Miss Med- wanted to let you know, my feed address has changed. I moved my site to omgpriest.com. Happy Raiding! Exxy

I play with my fiancee and sometimes I want to kill him when we raid together. Usually we try not to raid together because he is much more casual than I am. I am way to controlling to raid with him too much. But when we only play together rarely I do ok lol.

My husband and I are a gaming couple as well, though we seem to not run into them as often as one would think.

I am a holy priest and he is a feral kitty, and the number 1 dps in our guild. After I had to take about 2 months off this summer because of travel and 6 weddings I came back to realize I was just the part of the gamer couple you so vividly described in your post...the crappy one. Two months while a very short time IRL is an eternity in terms of gear in game. It was hard for my guild and my hubby to see me struggle in Uld when everyone else had uber drops form weeks of raiding. -- not to mention the INSANE JEALOUSY I had fpr my very apparent lack of healing power. Luckily though I was able to get all the gear since no one needed it anymore and now I'm the second geared person in the guild, and pretty damn good at my job...if I can toot my own horn a bit :)

Just on a side not I'm so glad I married a fellow gamer...I dont know what I'd do...or what we would talk about :P

Here's another couple for the list. I didn't marry a gamer girl though, instead a married a girl and then converted her into a gamer.

My wife and I both play the game, but we don't often actually play together. The problem is that we have completely opposite play styles. She's a slow going key-turner and I'm a fast paced pvp junkie. She likes to raid, and I like to level. She wants the best gear she can find, and I want the whole of Northrend to die in a fire. Things of that nature. /nod

We do low level stuff pretty well, we can handle leveling together in a starting area and the first major zone, but after that it all falls apart. She'll get a call from her friend and talk to her so in my boredom I'll jump into a battleground and she'll come back to find I have more experience than her and it's time for me to dodge the flying wireless mouse.

She's also overly critical of any mistake that I make, so if I happen to pull agro off the tank because my spell crits and does so then it's the end of the world, but someone else does it and she just shakes her head and blows it off. /sigh Women!

But, there are times where I'll do something similar where she messes something up because she's slow to move or slow to react to something. Her first 80 was a Holy Pally that she leveled with her friend who's a Prot Warrior and as such she's used to sitting there and clicking what she needs to on her addons to keep everyone healed. When a mob went after her she always had the tank there waiting to pull it off, so she's never had to develop reflexes and think of all the things she can do on the fly. But being a fan of pvp like I am that's what comes natural to me and is also why I end up soloing things as a clothy that would have killed her as a plate wearer.

So, we have fun with each other on RP servers or when we see each other in towns or out in the world, but for the most part we don't actually play together. I'm married to her in real life, but she's just the woman I love but can never have in the game.

But what about when your gamer partner doesn't want to play with YOU?

My man insists that he wants to start playing instances (his main is a 71 warrior, who has never tanked) but he just won't make good on that promise. By the sound of it we may actually be AVOIDING drama this way. Sigh. He's a keyboard turner, for one thing, drives me batty... At least he buys me flowers IRL.

Excuse me while I level another alt while I wait for him.

I am also part of a gamer couple. I'd say our greatest friction is the fact that he doesn't ever want me to do any content without him. We're co-leaders of our guild currently (owing to a bloodless coup about a month ago) which wasn't a position we'd bargained for. I'm also the SOLE geared healer in the guild. We're the sad sad group who has to pug a bunch of heals in order to raid. He tends to get upset with me when I go out with other tanks, which is somewhat unfair, because if I don't go, nobody else can either... there's no other healer to fill in the blanks.

But at the same time... I'm in finals week for law school, and honestly, I CAN'T play, as I don't have the willpower to study if I let myself log in at all. I'm pretty upset that the patch dropped yesterday and he's run so many damn random heroics that he's already accumulating T9 pieces, while I'm stuck with my head in a book. By the time I get back, he'll outgear me by a huge gap and won't want to go back and play catch up.

So yes, being a gaming couple is great... we're a really good tank-healer combo, probably because we know each other so well and have better communication than your average strangers, but the gear curve and "loyalty" puts a strain on things sometimes.

"what if one player is brilliant, while the other can't seem to stay out of the fire?"

That sounds like Astraia!

...burning in the fire that is!

XD

I'm finding that most girls I encounter in WoW are part of a couple. On my old server, there were so few girls that every time I talked it would evoke silence. Which was good if I ever wanted to be heard.:) But in our new guild, we have more girls in one place than I'd encountered in the other 4 years of playing! And all coupled. Not sure about everyone else, but that's my limited observation.

In all fairness... I'm a mage. I'm supposed to die.

Therefore, if I'm getting too many heals, I have to take matters into my own hands.